My Love!!!

Since the time we got married, my husband, has not remained the same person I fell in love with.

Gone are the days when we would talk openly to eachother. For the 5 years of our courtship, I loved the man who I could talk to about anything. He was my best friend. I could talk to him about my life, my parents, my feelings, my likes & dislikes. He would do the same & we knew eachother inside - out.

However, the day we got married, it all changed.

He does not share all with me & when I do, he doesn't give much response. His mother complaints to him about his & mine behavior, but he tells me just 10% of it all.

Living in the same with in-laws is not easy, and I'm learning it the hard way.

I suffer more, because all has changed for me. The least I expected was for the attitude of my husband (my boyfriend for 5 years before that) to change towards me.

He has always been a person of great patience, calm & composed. But now I often find him screaming at me. over the smallest of issues. He does not open to me about what his parents tell him & keeps all to himself.

He is man who likes to be in the good books of all. Thus, he does not reply to whatever his parents tell him. He seldom justifies himself or me.

I feel like I got a sour deal. I was happily living alone in a good apartment, doing a job. I quit & got married & now I have to live with his parents, who have  problem with literally the way I breath.

I was never close to my parents, but I had him by side, though thick & thin always.

However, I have now lost his support, as he is caught between his parents & me.

All I want now is some peace & to live happily & get a good job. I feel so frustrated & unhappy that I often find myself crying, which was hardly ever the case earlier. I have lost a very good friend & confidant, only to get a husband who loves me a little & keeps to himself.

Oh God!

Life - it changes!

Form better to good to bad to worse & back to being good(hopefully)!

My life was ironical when I was a kid, with dominating parents and I had not understood the world much. Life included going to school & home.

Thus, I took the decision to leave home & go out for graduation. There after 3 years I met the man, who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We laughed, we cried, we held hands in rains & winds & through the hot sunny days.

All was good. We had been together for nearly 5 years.

Then our parents decided to marry us. It was good still.

I dreaded living with the in-laws, because that's one thing I had heard from many, was not an easy thing & often proved to be a deal breaker in the lives of many happy couples.

Wedding was a good set of events. Honeymoon was fun as we both went to an Island & spend 5 happy & cheerful days.

That's when irony knocked on the door.

Ones we were back from the trip, & the daily life picked up its course, it started irritating me. Right from the complaints over a cup of tea, which was disliked, to the way I dressed, to my hairstyle, my make-up, the way I was disinterested in kitchen work, the way I replied to question, alllllllllll...

I had thought if I respected them enough, then maybe gradually they would like me & respect me as well.

However, I WAS A FOOOOLLLLLLLLL !!!

My in-laws have a problem with the way I cook in kitchen, the clothes I adorn when I'm staying in house, or when I step outside. That I wake up late on days when I don't need to cook for husband at 6 in the morning for his office.(I'm only doing a part time job, which is for 2 days a week). Also they have a problem that I go to a coffee shop weekly & have 1 cup of coffee everyday (I love coffee).

They complaint to me & husband about my "bad habits".

But it doesn't end here.

My monster - in - law, discusses about them with my mother & her 2 sisters (all on Domestic calls).

SO I have to hear an earful, from not just mother - in - law at home, but my husband & my mother who calls & tells me that I should change myself, as per their liking. Dress conservatively, wear tons of make-up & jewelry at home, wake up early & pray, go to temples, cook food - morning, noon & night - and hear their criticisms over every dish made. I have to do the dusting of the entire house, keep the living room arranged - as they mess it up every time they sit there.

And I haven't yet shared the best part!

My monster - in - law is a psychiatric patient, who is unwell due to the tensions she takes of her brothers & sisters. Therefore, she imparts tension to all & expects me to smile, take every comment & criticism with a pinch of salt & continue working.

Ok! Here's a funny thing!

If u want a glass of water, you would say - "Please get me a glass of water."

Guess what she says - "Won't you give me a glass of water?"

I mean, why not ask politely for what you want, instead of making sarcastic remarks & comments.

I am person who doesn't take negative criticisms about my work well. So what do I do for a  negative remark per job done??? I don't comment on what one wears or does, then why am I on the receiving of it??? I could handle if I knew that there was an end date to it, but that doesn't seem to be the case!